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Saturday, June 17, 2017

I think I jinxed myself yesterday morning by thinking that taking care of a baby was much less stressful than I remembered and that the biggest issue was Tanya acting out more. Tanya is almost three and I'm sure she's also jealous of the time I spend on the baby, so she's having more tantrums and more not listening, and being generally stubborn. You tell her not to do something, she's does it deliberately and on purpose. Yesterday morning she was driving both me and my Mom nuts. Olivia, on the other hand, has been sleeping a lot and been generally a good baby. I do have to wake up three times a night to feed her, but she eats quickly and that's pretty normal baby stuff. (And I was terrified being alone with Tanya even when she was like a month, and I'm fine being with a tiny baby now, because I do know what to expect).

But I jinxed it because yesterday, Olivia got gas pains a lot, was crying much more and generally just wanted to be held and to nap on me and not in the crib or the little co-sleeper I use for the first month. So I was basically holding her all day and was trying to soothe her in the evening while she looked like she was in pain, which made me want to cry too. She cried for maybe 5 minutes straight, but that was long enough for me to be upset about it. She did sleep ok at night, in her co-sleeper, and I was rubbing her tummy more, and this morning, after I changed her diaper and fed her, she even sat quietly in her baby chair in the kitchen for ten minutes while I ate breakfast, but boy, I can't wait for this stage to pass and for her tummy to settle down. She's over 9 pounds already, so hopefully it will be just a few months.

Bear went back to work this past week and my Mom has been coming over every day. Usually I would take Olivia outside to nap in the stroller in the courtyard at least once a day, sometimes twice. I would read my book or chat with neighbors. If my Mom and Tanya stopped by on the way to or from the big playground, Tanya would want to sit on me and play with me more than usual - she is definitely reacting to my focus on the baby. Before she would just tell me to go away more. I do try to play with her when I can. I know it is a big change for her.

Bear's birthday was on Thursday. It was very low key this year. Tanya and I drew him a card and I gave him his presents on Thursday morning. I got him another little drone, a book on Black Holes and DVD of Logan. He saw it in the movie theater but he wanted to own it and I wanted to watch it, so win-win. Tomorrow, Bear is taking Tanya to Long Island for the day to celebrate Father's Day and his birthday (he was born on Father's Day so his family always combined the celebrations) and he will get a proper cake. I will just be home with Olivia all day, since she's too young to travel anywhere and I just want to be home anyway.

I've been watching "Orange is the New Black" Season 5 - an episode a day, pretty much. And Great British Baking Show this morning on PBS app. I'm still reading LeGuin book - I'm up to book reviews section. Mostly I'm just sleepy.

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hamsterwoman
Jun. 17th, 2017 07:16 pm (UTC)
I hope the gassy and crying phase passes soon!

It doesn't sound like it's at all as dire, so you may not need it, but: O was a total marsupial baby -- he needed to be held pretty much at all times or he'd start crying -- and I got a lot of use out of a baby sling (one of those things that's supposed to convert to a baby carrier but also has a sling version for babies too young to hold their heads). That was enough contact/warmth/whatever to keep him from fussing, and I had my hands free to do stuff, and walking around worked the same way as rocking.

Reading about your days with Olivia, reading a book while the baby naps in the stroller outside, while Tanya and your mom stop by is so nostalgic for me -- that was our rhythm, too, with my grandmother taking L around and me home with baby!O, once B's school started. :)
bearshorty
Jun. 17th, 2017 08:40 pm (UTC)

Me too!


I was just talking to Olivia this morning, saying she wants to be a kangaroo.  I actually ordered a Moby wrap to try carrying her around. Should get here next week. I have a Bjorn but that is not supposed to be good for baby legs, so I will definitely try a wrap. I want my hands free too!

hamsterwoman
Jun. 17th, 2017 09:53 pm (UTC)
We called O our koala baby :) -- for the early marsupialness, and also even as a toddler he always wanted to sit on me -- really he only stopped when he was too heavy for me to carry around.

Hope both you and Olivia like the wrap!

(I can't find online the kind we had with O -- it definitely had fewer degrees of freedom than the Moby wrap, but one of the big benefits was that I could unclip it from myself when O fell asleep, without disturbing him, and let him sleep in it while I wend and did something by myself for 10-20 minutes at a time, before he'd notice I was gone and would start fussing again. They don't seem to make that style anymore -- he was basically lying in it swaddled, like in a little hammock, with the sling going across my body -- not front to front, like the wraps seem to be, but his side to my front. Which is probably less baby-wearing friendly, but was a lot more convenient in our case.)
mspeacockwi
Jun. 18th, 2017 12:41 pm (UTC)

My daughter was three when my youngest was born.  Adjusting was really hard for us.  My daughter didn't regress with sleep or toilet training but OMG her behaviour was unreal!  It took a couple months for things to really settle down and I was so relieved when I got my sweet girl back.

bearshorty
Jun. 25th, 2017 09:33 pm (UTC)

Hopefully Tanya will adjust at some point soon as she is jealous of my time with a baby.  We just have to be patient. Good to know this happens with others too and that this too shall pass.

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